Review on the relation between guilt-shame level and resilience, and marital satisfaction of parents with children who have special needs

A child is a source of joy and happiness for parents. Having a child means new hopes and new dreams. Having a child causes many new conditions for the parents and changes within the family. Accordingly, it may be claimed that even though having a child without disabilities brings some difficulties for the family, having a child with disabilities psychologically affects both the mothers and the fathers, and decreases the indomitanbleness perception and marital satisfaction. For parents, the process of adapting to special needs can be very challenging, and therefore they can experience problems such as guilt and shame. Due to guilt, parents' levels of indiscretion are weakened, and another factor associated with this, marital satisfaction, can also decrease. The main aim of this study is to determine the levels of guilt and shame experienced by parents with special needs children, how they predict their level of indomitanbleness and how these factors affect marital satisfaction. However, the status of parents as parents, age, education, number of children with special needs were also examined in terms of variables such as. The sample of the study consists of 322 parents (mother=235, father=87) who live within the borders of Arnavutköy District of Istanbul province and have at least one child with disabilities. The data of the study were collected using the Personal Information Form, the guilt - shame scale, the family indiscretion scale, and the married life (satisfaction) scales, all prepared by the researcher. In the study, when parents are examined according to their mother or father status, it can be said that fathers feel more indomitable and struggling and connected to life compared to mothers. According to the age variable, it can be said that parents are connected to a more indomitable, combative, self-competent life at the same time that their age increases, they do not feel guilt, but are ashamed of having a child with special needs. As the level of education of parents increases, the satisfaction they receive from marriage increases and they perceive themselves as more indomitable. Due to these factors, they also feel less guilty and ashamed. As the number of children with special needs increases, it has been found that there is a decrease in the satisfaction that parents receive from marriage, and they experience more guilt. In other words, they expressed themselves as less indomitable. It can be said that the fact that parents have children with mild disabilities increases the level of control, which is the lower dimension of their marital satisfaction and perception of intimidation, and the level of guilt and shame of parents with moderate and severe children increases. There is a moderate and negative relationship between guilt-shame and marriage satisfaction scores, a moderate and negative relationship between insubordination and criminality, while a positive relationship between insubordination and marriage satisfaction. According to multiple regression analysis in the procedure question, which is our last question, the level of intimidation is positive, while the level of guilt and shame is negative. In this context, it was concluded that parents were more indomitable as their marital satisfaction increased and felt less guilty as their level of indomitable increased.